Saturday, 02 February 2013 00:00

Your Own Worst Enemy

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angerHave you ever been guilty of being your own worst enemy? This is a hard truth to discuss and it’s even harder to admit guilt. This being the case I will begin with transparency. Hopefully you will see me as a fellow struggler and not a stone thrower.

I once found myself to be my own worst enemy with a group of deacons. This group of deacons fulfilled an administrative role instead of a ministry role. This is fairly typical in older traditional churches. Pastors struggle to cope with this type of deacon ministry. Our success or failure in coping with this situation is not altogether dependent on the deacons. Our success or failure requires that we manage our hearts properly. In my situation I failed because I stopped communicating with these deacons and emotionally avoided them. There were several times when I became frustrated with this group of men and failed to manage my frustration. My frustration caused me to turn inward (causing depression) and at other times to lash out in anger. This caused some of the deacons to become frustrated with me. I was my own worst enemy.

Consider this verse from Proverbs. “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” (Prov. 15:1) Another person responding in an inappropriate manner does not justify my responding in an inappropriate manner. If I respond in an inappropriate manner, I become my own worst enemy. Ultimately, I am not responsible for the other person; I am responsible for myself.

Over the years I have seen a number of situations where individuals become their own worst enemy.

Consider these examples.

  • Anger- Sometimes we react to people with anger and frustration. Jesus was severely abused yet He never became angry in His response to His tormentors.
  • Immaturity- Ministers can be guilty of mishandling anger, conflict, and personality issues as much as other people.
  • Superiority- Ministers sometimes develop a superiority mind-set whereby we conclude our vision, decisions, and opinions are superior to lay people.
  • Poor people skills- If we do not treat people with dignity, respect, and integrity they will return the favor.
  • Poor communication skills- Words are tricky creatures. They often do not communicate what we intend. Over the years I have inadvertently run off a number of people from churches I served because they did not hear what I was trying to communicate. I realize those people are responsible for handling their issues. However, I recognize words to be a problem from time to time. Misunderstandings and poor communication are behind most broken relationships.
Thursday, 24 January 2013 06:00

A Good Attitude Helps

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old horseDuring my 83rd year, I visited my friend and trusted physician for a regular checkup. He asked, “How do you feel?” I said, “Alright, I guess.” Sensing that he was waiting for more, I said, “I don’t know how I’m supposed to feel – you should write a book telling me how 83-year-olds usually feel!” His answer was, “I can’t; I’ve never been that old.” Well, I’ve now been blessed to have celebrated my 85th birthday. So that others might be better able to answer their physician’s inquiry, maybe I can shed some light on the subject.

At 85, one must recognize and acknowledge at least to himself, “I’m not as young as I used to be, and the old grey hoss ain’t what he used to be!” There are some things you need to leave undone and don’t fret about it. The combination of age and mileage takes its toll; so, find something you can do and enjoy doing it. Instead of fretting (stressing) over what you can’t do, thank God for what you can do!

Regular trips to the physician and monthly trips to the drug store are a part of the senior lifestyle, and you budget for that. The price hurts; but if it’s any consolation, comparing the prices and income schedules, I was paying more for some medicine in 1950-55 than I pay today. Thank God for the advances in medical care.

I’ve also learned that not too many people are really concerned about another’s aches and ailments. So, talk about the beautiful day, etc., and find something about which to compliment your companions. I’ve tried many remedies, and a frown and/or a groan has never relieved a pain or cured arthritis. At first, a smile may not make you feel better, but it does wonders for others and will make you look a lot better.

I’ve found that thinking about my physical limitations and ailments tends to increase my discomforts; so in keeping with the Apostle Paul’s admonition, I look for “things that are true, things that are noble and lovely, just, pure, virtuous – of a good report and worthy of praise, and I think and meditate on these.” (Philippians 4:8) I refuse to let my mind stay in the dumps. I deliberately, intentionally, Rejoice in the Lord. (Philippians 4:4) I stay busy doing what I can for the Lord and others. I refuse to think about being old. As someone has said, I had much rather be a young 85-year-old than an old 40-year-old.

As you grow older, may God richly bless!

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Saturday, 19 January 2013 08:20

Let Go!

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let-go-let-godI just returned from a building materials store where I purchased two new doors for our home. After paying for the doors, I drove my car into the loading yard to be loaded. While waiting on the loading attendant I reflected on how I have changed. At one point, not too many years ago (I am 59); I would not have waited on an attendant. I am a do it yourself kind of guy. I take care of most projects around the house. (No, I am not like the “do it yourself guy” who, when his wife asked his help with a project, replied “do it yourself.” A little humor there!)

This time of reflection reminded me of an important truth. There are times when we need to “let go” rather than pushing on and doing things ourselves. This reminded me of Jacob. Jacob was a do it yourself kind of guy. He was impulsive, self-sufficient, a manipulator, and a person who needed to be in control. It is hard for God to build faith when those qualities control our lives. For Jacob, this changed over a period of time. However, the most significant change occurred after he experienced an all-night wresting match with God’s messenger (Gen. 32:22-32). That experience changed his life; God taught him how to let go.

As I applied the building materials experience to that of Jacob several important truths emerged.

First, we need to recognize and acknowledge our limitations. As a 59-year-old I cannot do the same things as a 19-year-old. This is hard to admit, but the wise person learns to admit this truth physically, spiritually and emotionally. Jacob learned that he could not always be in control.

Friday, 11 January 2013 12:00

The Blind Side

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Blind-SideA recent movie that enjoyed great popularity was “The Blind Side.” This movie tells the true story of a young African American who went from homelessness to become an All American football player at Ole Miss. The story includes the football player plus a white family who took him in and provided nurture and a home.

The movie’s name could provide the plot for many who are involved in God’s work. I open my heart to allow you a brief glimpse. Last week I was asked to speak in a small church on Wednesday night. In preparing for that experience I had a humbling encounter with pride. Most all of us know Prov. 16:18 by heart or at least the truth. “Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.” As I prepared for my speaking engagement I had a much needed encounter with the Holy Spirit.

As I prepared for the engagement I made several mistakes. First, I consulted my memory before consulting the Holy Spirit. I mentally ran through a list of sermons I had preached in the past. I was looking for the easy, fun sermon that did not require a great deal of preparation. Also, I chose the sermon that seemed appropriate for the occasion. Remember, this was done in my mind without consulting the Holy Spirit. I spent some time preparing the message when the Holy Spirit finally got my attention. The Holy Spirit changed my plans. (Don’t you regret, when that happens. Ha! Ha!)

foodLast week, my mail person delivered an advertisement for a new book that purported to expose all the fallacies in the labels on all the food products. I suppose I should purchase the book; but I’m like the farmer who said he wasn’t farming half as well as he knew how to farm now. I am not eating half as healthy as I know how to eat!

But, I guess I should pay closer attention to my diet. Someone has said, “We are what we eat.” I suspect my problem, as well as with many others, is not what we eat that’s killing us; but rather, the amount we eat. Close observation at Walmart will confirm my suspicion. We might point out that when the super religious hierarchy wanted to really smear the Master’s reputation, they called Jesus “A wine bibber and a glutton.” (You don’t hear many sermons on gluttony. Too many preachers can’t afford to talk.) Self discipline at the table and backing off from the junk foods would probably save on our doctor bills and prevent lots of suffering.

So much for the discussion on healthy nutrition; let’s consider the need to feed our soul and mind some food other than junk. Fox Satellite TV Station is advertising a new program; and the man in the red tights acts like the hit star in a porn movie. The air waves are filled with profanity and pornography. The vulgar language is useless to the plot, shameful and revolting. That we become what we constantly see and hear is verified by the ever increasing volume of filth produced. They produce it because it sells; and Satan must smile and clap his hands.

Much of the music (so called) is filled with degrading subject matter. In one current song, the writer pictures himself as being useless in most activities, but “he’s pretty good at drinking beer.” Another sings his request for “someone to put a drink in my hand,” and our President holds “beer conferences” with prospective voters.

A fast food store runs an ad showing two guys in a van discussing the food; the ad successfully “dumbs down" men and this is supposed to entertain us and motivate us to buy the product. It is no wonder that people are bored.

“As we think in our heart, so are we.” We are in great need for a better mental and spiritual diet this New Year!

Friday, 21 December 2012 04:09

The Joy of Giving

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As I write this piece Judy (my wife) and I are returning from Southeast Asia, where our son and daughter-n-law serve as missionaries. This trip was a refreshing reminder of the joy of giving. We were able to share gifts of encouragement with several missionaries. It is such a blessing to encourage others and to see the joy on their faces as they received our gifts.

As I connect the joy of Christmas giving to what I experienced in SE Asia, I am reminded of several gifts we should share at Christmas and throughout the year. First, there is the gift of unconditional, unsolicited love. Our giving to the missionaries was unsolicited and unconditional. All around us there are people crying out for unconditional love. I think of Jesus’ love for the social outcast, the leper, the demon possessed, and the unlovely. He displayed the grace of unconditional love.

The gift of encouragement is also needed. We planned the gift giving for the missionaries as an act of encouragement. Likewise, there are people all around us who need encouraging-- the single mom seeking to raise children by herself, the lonely senior adult who receives few visits from family, the recently released prisoner who is trying to rebuild his life, the cancer victim who struggles with the insecurity of the future, the widowed/widower who faces the first Christmas alone. All of these individuals need the gift of encouragement.

The greatest gifts are not necessarily those that can be wrapped in a package. Some gifts require extra effort and extra thought to process. It is easy to love when it is expected or the love flows along family or friendship lines. Jesus said, “For if you love those who love you, what reward will you have? Don’t even the tax collectors do the same? And if you greet only your brothers, what are you doing out of the ordinary? Don’t even the Gentiles do the same?” (Mt. 5:46-47 HCSB) The words that stand out to me in this passage are the words “out of the ordinary.” As a Christian and a minister, am I willing to go beyond the call of duty? Am I willing to go beyond the ordinary?

A few days ago I heard a story, on the morning news, about a young American Marine who went beyond the call of duty. He went beyond the ordinary. He took a bullet and died in a valiant effort to rescue a medical doctor who was being held by Islamic extremists in the Middle East.

As ministers and Christians there are certain things we are expected to do. We are expected to fulfill our responsibility to the church. We are expected to maintain a Godly character. We are expected to support our families. These are all noble and commendable actions. My prayer is that, during this holiday season, and throughout the year, we will fulfill what is expected but also seek out those actions that are beyond the ordinary. Such actions will bring us an extra special level of the “Joy of Giving.”

Merry Christmas!

Wednesday, 21 November 2012 12:00

You Know You're Called to This Work When… Part 2

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Only the called of God see the ministry as a lifework for the Lord Jesus regardless of the pay, the appreciation, or the fruit. Only the called keep preaching when no church will employ them and when the disgruntled from the last two churches are bad-mouthing them to pastor search committees.

You have to be called. That's all there is to it.

Last week we posted the first in this series. The first section: “You know you are not called to this work when...” and the second, “You know God called you into this work when...”

1)...the work is hard, the rewards are few, the complaining is multiplying, and you are more fulfilled than in anything you've ever done in your life.

2) preached your heart out, you know beyond a doubt that the hand of God was on you, but the only response from the congregation was griping that you went overtime. And you are still happy to be serving those people in that pastorate.

3)...the deacons are discussing your ministry (pro and con; you do have your supporters) while you sit there in silence, and you find the peace of Christ settling upon you. You sense within yourself a strong love for your critics.

4) can't do anything else.

A pastor friend wrote about a church he served. “There was a time when I was in a difficult church. A small group of leaders had force-terminated the previous four pastors, and now they were trying to run me off. They were hypercritical, they fabricated allegations against me, and they wanted me gone.

“I became frustrated and weary and began exploring other career options. In fact, I even found one. However, the Lord would not let me leave. He confirmed in my heart that I was called to pastor and He had sent me to that church. He restored my joy and gave me the perseverance needed to ride out the storm.”

5) take a well-needed vacation and when it's over, you can't wait to get back.

You miss your people and miss what you do.

6) sincerely love the people you are ministering to. They're sinful and can be difficult and the work is emotionally and spiritually draining. But you love them in a way that feels that it must be how the Lord loves them.

7) are truly burdened for the spiritual well-being of your people.

This keeps you awake at night, occupies your mind in the day, and drives the programming of your ministry.

Far from running from this kind of burden and the demands of this heavy a ministry, you actually embrace it.

Harper Shannon tells of a pastor running into a friend who had left the ministry and was now selling insurance. He asked, "What do you miss most about the work?"

The insurance seller and former pastor said, "I miss the trumpets in the morning."

(That became the title of Harper's book on the pastoral ministry. It's long out of print, but available from used book sellers such as and

Those called of God understand trumpets in the morning.

Saturday, 08 December 2012 12:00

You Know You're Called to This Work When.... Part 1

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My pastor friend was about to conduct the most difficult funeral of his nearly 20 year ministry. He and I had discussed it and I had prayed for him. His heart was breaking for the young family that was laying to rest two close loved ones.

In a private moment, I said to him, "Pastor to pastor, I want to ask you something. Even though this is tearing your heart out, do you find yourself thinking, 'I'd rather be here doing this than anywhere else in the world'?"

He said, "I do! I really do."

I said, "That's how you know you are really called to this work."

He was quiet a moment, then added, "I tell my wife--pastors' wives understand these things--that my favorite part of pastoring, what I do best, is the funeral of a Christian. It's hard, it can be gut-wrenching, but this is our moment to shine, the event which brings together all the great stuff we believe so strongly."

God-called pastors understand.

Only the called will understand.

In a meeting of the directors of mission for the Baptists of our state, an item on our agenda, one we discussed out of great concern but for which we arrived at no solution, was "helping pastors know if they are called (or not) into the ministry."

There ought to be a way to help uncalled ministers to recognize their situation, then step away from this work and find something else to do.

Some will ask why, what difference it makes.

Monday, 26 November 2012 00:00

Edifying of the body of Christ

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After reading many posts from The Shepherd’s Connection website, and hearing of so many discouraged pastors, I believe the Lord wants me to share from my heart why so many God-called pastors get so discouraged, and many even choose to leave the pastoring ministry.

I am 72-years-old and have been pastoring for the last 20 years. When I gave my life to Jesus at age 36, a radical change began to take place in my heart that is still going on today, as I expect it will until I see Him face to face. God began putting my life in order, after His order, because that is what He does.

For 16 years, I was under the leadership of a great pastor in a large church. He was not a great pastor because he was serving as the pastor of a large church, but because he was living out his God-given instructions for every God-called pastor.  It is clear that Paul summarized the pastor’s role in Ephesians 4:11-12, “And he gave some, apostles, and some, prophets, and some, evangelists, and some, pastors and teachers for the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ. (KJV emphasis mine)

My first pastorate was a church in a small community with a membership of about 50, of which about 14-16 regularly attended (of course, it was not always the same 14-16 who attended). While this may be typical, it is certainly not normal for the saints of God. I started out to build up that small church and it was one of the most frustrating endeavors I have ever undertaken. Everyone was excited in the "honeymoon" stage, but it was not long before I realized that I could not build the church because that was not what I have been called to do, at least according to Matthew 16:18; only Jesus could do that! 

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