Celebrating the 2nd Anniversary of The Shepherd’s Connection
In an article I wrote last week I referred to II Tim. 4:9-13. In this passage Paul asks Timothy to bring several resources. He recognized some of the vital resources that are helpful to his journey in ministry. Paul identifies friends, reading material (the scrolls), and his cloak. “Make every effort to come to me soon, for Demas has deserted me, because he loved this present world, and has gone to Thessalonica. Crescens has gone to Galatia, Titus to Dalmatia. Only Luke is with me. Bring Mark with you, for he is useful to me in the ministry. I have sent Tychicus to Ephesus. When you come, bring the cloak I left in Troas with Carpus, as well as the scrolls, especially the parchments. Alexander the coppersmith did great harm to me. The Lord will repay him according to his works.” (II Timothy 4:9-13)
Paul knew the value of resources. What about you? Do you maintain resources that will enable you to stay healthy for your journey in ministry? I will share some resources that I have found to be helpful to a healthy journey in ministry.
In last week’s article I discussed John Donne’s famous quote, “No man is an island.” If no man is an island, there is a natural assumption that all men need the encouragement and support of others. This is true in the secular world as well as the religious world. It is also true for ministers of the gospel. We are not superhuman.
Ministers of the gospel face the challenge of living in an isolated cocoon. This is not conducive to giving and/or receiving the support of others. This concept demands our attention in both directions. We should give encouragement to others, but we also need encouragement. In this article I want to challenge you to be an encourager.
As ministers, we should be encouragers to everyone. However, we desperately need to share this gift with fellow ministers. No one understands the challenges and trials of ministry like those who serve in ministry.
I am inspired by the example of Barnabus. Most every time we meet him on the pages of the New Testament he is encouraging someone. We read where he sold some of his possessions and encouraged others by sharing with them. (Acts 4:36-37) He encouraged Paul and stood up for him, as a new convert, before the skeptical elders of the Jerusalem church. (Acts 9:26-27 He was an encourager for the Gentile church in Antioch and he stood for them and by them in the early days of their spiritual journey. He encouraged the church in Jerusalem by helping deliver the benevolent gift from Antioch during a time of famine. (Acts 11:19-30) He stood up for John Mark, at a time when he needed encouragement and a friend. This was especially significant since Barnabas and Paul had a difference of opinion concerning Mark’s continued participation in their missionary work. Barnabas chose to support and encourage John Mark whereas Paul wanted to go on without him. (Acts 15:36-41)
A famous poet by the name of John Donne (1572-1631) once said, “No man is an island.” The past two years I have observed this to be so. Two years ago, in October, a group of fellow believers started The Shepherd’s Connection. This ministry was designed to address the pain, loneliness and challenges faced by those who serve in ministry. I asked one leader, who regularly counsels pastors, this question, “What do you perceive to be the greatest danger faced by ministers?” Without hesitation he said “isolation.” Translation, no man is an island.
In considering this topic I am reminded of Paul’s situation when he wrote II Timothy. “Make every effort to come to me soon, for Demas has deserted me, because he loved this present world, and has gone to Thessalonica. Crescens has gone to Galatia, Titus to Dalmatia. Only Luke is with me. Bring Mark with you, for he is useful to me in the ministry. I have sent Tychicus to Ephesus. When you come, bring the cloak I left in Troas with Carpus, as well as the scrolls, especially the parchments. Alexander the coppersmith did great harm to me. The Lord will repay him according to his works.” (II Timothy 4:9-13) Paul experienced the heartache of desertion and felt the loneliness of saying goodbye to ministry associates. He recognized the importance of staying connected to other believers. He anticipated Timothy’s soon arrival. From this text I recognize several important truths we ministers should heed.
When we started “The Shepherd’s Connection” we chose a name with intentionality. We recognized the truths from Paul’s life. The key word is the word “connection.” Every minister needs to be connected. Paul recognized this truth and sought to be connected to two valuable resources.
First, Paul sought to be connected to ministry friends. Every minister faces isolation. Isolation has many causes: people’s expectations, the natural isolation of leadership, competition, jealousy, and insufficient time to prioritize personal relationships. Isolation goes with the position; however, we do not have to yield to it. We, like Paul, should seek to stay connected.
Recently, I learned something about myself that I really do not like. I am very poor at waiting! I wake in the morning with a “Hurry Up” attitude. I rush to the kitchen to start the coffeepot and then wait for it to brew. While trying to listen to the morning news, I quickly made my toast. Gulping breakfast down with my second cup of coffee, I was off to the bathroom for a quick shower and shave. Then I jumped into my jeans, shirt and shoes and was off to my doctor’s office -- and then I realized that I had hurried only to wait! Waiting my turn seemed twice as long as it really was. Then I wondered, how much time had I really saved and for what?
For most of us, life is just one big hurry up and wait! Through the years, I have tried to make positive use of that waiting time. So, controlling my impatience, I returned to my effort to use each minute well. Looking around, I discovered the prettiest three year old, well-behaved little girl. I spent some time just soaking up the wonder of a little child. I got acquainted with her father and mother – Army people.
There was an elderly lady who had recently undergone surgery on her arm and we exchanged miseries and pleasantries, and then an acquaintance who I had known for nineteen years came in. I learned that because of severe illness, she had to retire. I offered words of encouragement. After a while, a lady with no legs came in, and all I had time for was a smile and she smiled in return; and then I was ushered into a little room to wait some more! What could I do while waiting?
I remembered some truths given in God’s Word. The Apostle Paul admonished us to “Buy up the time!” So, I began working on a sermon idea, “When Time is No More” and another idea, “While Waiting, What Kind of a Person Should I Be?” Sensing my failure to always use time well and my need for patience while waiting, I “gossiped” to the Good Lord about me and I prayed for the physicians who were so busy at the task of making life better for so many patients.
Reflecting upon my attitude and impatience at having to wait, I remembered a favorite Psalm, “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in time of trouble, therefore we will not fear.” (Psalm 46:1-2) Regardless of what happens, He is in control! “The Lord of hosts is with us.” (Psalm 46:7) Then the verse really spoke to me, “Be still and know that I am God: I will be exalted in the earth.” (Psalm 46:10) I was reminded that this time spent waiting was just what I needed to “Be still” and experience God’s presence. Lord, thank You for time to wait in Your presence.
E. J. Bradshaw is Director of Missions for Vernon Baptist Association, Leesville, LA.
“Then He said to them, “My soul is exceedingly sorrowful, even to death. Stay here and watch with Me.”
I don't know who it was in our Men's Ministry who coined the phrase years ago, “Don’t Fix Me, Just Hold Me” which meant to the other guys in the group, "I don’t need your advice, I just need your friendship. I just want to know that you care.” This saying has proved itself over and over again to be a great way to be a better friend to one another. And the good news is, it works in all relationships, not just between men.
Hearing those words, "Don't Fix Me Just Hold Me" are refreshing for the simple fact that often times in life we are fully aware of what we are struggling through as God is working in our lives or as we have just experienced a hardship or loss and what we need most from those close to us is their loving support. Just knowing they are there for us speaks volumes. In the book of Job, when his three friends first heard the news of his tremendous loss, they didn’t try to fix him, no, they just came to him and sat by his side for days on end without speaking a single word. They cried with him and mourned his loss with him, but they didn’t try to fix the situation by offering sage advice. That story provides for each of us an important lesson on how to be a better friend.
Availability is sometimes the single greatest gift we can offer others, especially in their time of need. Think about it, loved one, what keeps any of us from helping others? Isn't it our busyness that hinders us from getting involved? I remember a pastor friend telling me one time that if people wanted his counsel they could set up an appointment with him during his office hours placing the burden on them if they wanted his care. He told me that since people would take off time from work to go to the doctor he saw no reason not to make them schedule an appointment between the hours of 8:30 a.m. and 4:30 p.m. if they really wanted his help. I remember thinking at the time, is that what Jesus would do? I shared with him that I thought we might need to reconsider our thinking on that for the simple fact that, “since people can’t schedule all their pain, they can’t schedule all appointments conveniently between the hours of 8:30 and 4:30.” As friends, and brothers and sisters in Christ we should all seek to be available for each other in life understanding that in doing so we will enjoy some of the most divine appointments God has to offer us.
"Don't Fix Me, Just Hold Me" is a basic human cry of our heart that can be met when we choose to "be there" for others. We don't need to worry what to say, we don't need special training, all we need is a willingness in our heart to drop what we are doing, and to make ourselves available to others in their time of need. After all, that's what Jesus does for me and for you! Actually, Jesus does one better. When Jesus holds us, that makes it all better!
“Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep.”
Mike Osthimer is pastor of Calvary Chapel Westbrook in Bakersfield, California.
While travelling last week, on two separate occasions, I observed a turtle slowly creeping across a road. Both times the same thing happened. When the turtle saw my car approaching each quickly withdrew into his shell. These incidents were a parable of truth to me. What did I learn?
The first lesson, you have to give the turtles credit for venturing to cross the road. They saw something worth pursuing across the road. There is an old saying “nothing ventured, nothing gained.” Am I venturing out and testing new terrain? We will never accomplish anything if we do not venture out.
A second lesson was somewhat humorous. Two turtles are strolling across the road. They realize danger is pressing in on them. They cannot run away so they withdraw to the security of their shell. Even though they felt secure in their shell, the truth is, the shell offered no security. Those turtles did not escape the danger. They escaped to the perceived security of the shell. However, the threat was still present. We may do the same thing. We withdraw when we perceive danger is present. We subconsciously convince ourselves that we have escaped the danger, only to emerge with the danger still present.
A third lesson grows out of the second. When we withdraw we are not solving the problem, we are merely avoiding it. When we come back it will still be there. Obviously a turtle cannot reason or negotiate when it finds itself in dangerous circumstances. However, God has given us the ability to communicate, speak truth, and discuss issues with other people. We must be careful that we are not retreating and merely hiding our problems. Such avoidance often leads to depression and hidden emotions.