Wednesday, 15 February 2017 15:01

How to Stop Being a People Pleasing Pastor or Leader

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After a post about people pleasing, I received the following email:

Ron,

Have just finished your blog post “7 Casualties of a People Pleaser in Leadership. “ I recognize I am a People Pleaser Pastor. How do I turn the tide on this? How do I stop? I am seeing tension mounting on the team. There is frustration on our staff and it is even spilling over to our spouses, and my vision has hit a brick wall. I really want to move away from this but I am finding it most difficult.

Signed,

One frustrated pastor

Friday, 03 February 2017 13:37

Critics: Stay Away or Draw Close to Them?

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Criticism hurts, especially the non-constructive kind. We tend to stay away from such critics. But is that the wisest choice? Should we draw close to them instead of pulling away from them? In this post I explore the idea of not shunning your critics.

For pastors, Sunday can be the most draining day of the week. Intense people interaction, teaching or preaching, seeing our critics, trying to remember names, and attempting to put our own problems aside to listen to other peoples’ problems add up to a stress-filled day. The very day we want to be at our best requires more from us than any other day. As a result, we can easily make one or more of the 5 biggest mistakes pastors make on Sundays. Evaluate this list to find out how many you make. I follow the list with some suggestions on how to avoid them.

Friday, 13 January 2017 08:49

What Does It Take to Change?

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We are facing a new year? With the coming of a New Year we often consider New Year’s resolutions. That means change! (Or does it?) Change is hard to initiate.

Friday, 06 January 2017 08:45

How to Pull out of a Leadership Lull

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Every leader at some time in his or her leadership will face multiple leadership lulls. We have a down Sunday. A new ministry doesn’t take off. Someone expresses disappointment in us or criticizes us. A seasonal program doesn’t bring as many new people as we expected. Sometimes those lulls can push us into a downward spiral from which it becomes difficult to pull out. Understanding what goes on in our brains offers insight on how to pull out of a leadership lull.

Sunday, 01 January 2017 10:14

The Warning Roar

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Recently I had car trouble. The wheel bearings on the front of our car went out. For weeks before the bearings went out, the car gave a “warning roar.” I thought the sound was coming from a bad tire or poor wheel alignment. However, while speaking with a mechanic he explained the roar was coming from worn wheel bearings. He explained that it was just a matter of time until we found ourselves sitting on the side of the highway in a broken down car. This was an occasion when I was pleased with the “warning roar.” The roar saved either my wife or me from an unexpected break down.

Sunday, 18 December 2016 06:05

Why Am I Doing This?

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In recent weeks the Shepherds Connection published a series of articles on depression. Depression is often identified with feelings of hopelessness. Also, depression frequently causes a person to question the value of life. Questions such as, “Why am I doing this” float through the mind?

Sunday, 18 December 2016 05:56

Hope Beyond Depression

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The past several weeks The Shepherd’s Connection has posted articles about depression. Depression is real, but there is hope beyond depression. In fact, there are a number of experiences (termination, burnout, conflict, even holidays, etc.) we face in ministry, which might be viewed as ministry killers. Many people see this with depression. That is absolutely not true.

Friday, 09 December 2016 13:43

Depression is Real!

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Depression is real!!!! It can happen to anyone. In April of 2009 my primary care doctor discovered that I had a brain tumor. Through the guidance of my primary care doctor I ended up at a neurosurgeon in Shreveport, La.

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