My last name is Patrick. I am of Irish descent. Irish folks are given credit for being impatient people. That certainly holds true in our family. My grandfather was not a patient man. My father was not a patient man. I have struggled with patience. The roots run deep.
Last year my wife and I built a new home. While we were building we also dug a small catfish pond. We have been excited about this new venture (the pond). Each afternoon we feed the catfish. We can almost see them growing before our eyes. We anticipate the day we catch our first fish. Recently I made two mistakes that, due to my inexperience, almost killed our fish.
How do you handle frustration? Notice I did not say, “How to Avoid Frustration.” When you serve in ministry the question is not “if” but “when” you face frustration. It is a daily companion when working with people.
When I think of frustration I am always drawn to Moses. We get frustrated dealing with 50, 100, or 200 people. This is not to minimize your frustration but to magnify Moses as a learning model. Moses had to manage a whole nation. WOW! There came a point when his frustration caught up with him.
Sunday I had an amazing day at church. I taught Sunday school and shared one of the most memorable Sunday school experiences I can remember. It was memorable because of what the people taught me. The small group members shared insights and thoughts that blessed my heart. They shared thoughts that did not occur to me as I prepared to teach the lesson.
Have you been to a pity party lately? We enjoy them so much that we are tempted to plan them on a regular basis. The only problem is, we are usually the only guests and we feel worse for attending the party.
David attended a pity party from time to time. One occasion was recorded in Psalm 38. “My heart pants, my strength fails me; As for the light of my eyes, it also has gone from me. My loved ones and my friends stand aloof from my plague, And my relatives stand afar off. Those also who seek my life lay snares for me; Those who seek my hurt speak of destruction, And plan deception all the day long.” (Vs. 10-12 NKJV)
Yesterday I spent time thinking about the many issues faced by pastors. There is always something! A disgruntled family leaves for another church. Somebody is mad. There is a need for workers in the children’s ministry. A staff member makes a misstep. A toilet is hung up in the men’s restroom.
Good news from Job, are you kidding? Is there really good news in the book of Job? Job and the book that bears his name seem to be synonymous with trials and hardship. Even secular people equate the word Job with trials. So, what is the good news from Job? Consider these encouraging concepts.
1. Even Godly people struggle. The Lord’s assessment of Job was that he was “a blameless and upright man, one who fears God and shuns evil.” (Job 1:8) Health issues, people problems, conflict, failure and other matters are not a sign of ungodliness on your part.
“You have mellowed since you came to be our pastor,” the senior adult lady said to me. I politely asked her for an explanation. This was a sweet encouraging lady. I knew she would not make such a statement without a basis. Since she perceived that I had mellowed I guess she felt safe in making such a statement. LOL!
She went on to explain. “Brother Tim, when you first came to be our pastor you were abrasive and controversial in many things you said from the pulpit.” She explained that I had grown and mellowed a lot over the years. At the time I thanked her for her comments and filed them away in file thirteen of my brain.
At the time I thought little of this conversation. I dismissed the comments since this lady was a sweet person, supporter and encouraging person. She innocently shared the truth as she saw it in her heart.
Do you know how to let go? Let me pull a page from my story to help you think through this question. Over the years my wife has left a trail of young couple’s Sunday school classes and ministries. In each church we served Judy started or expanded such a ministry. However, she has always done something that caused me to cringe, at least until I saw the wisdom of her actions. She builds a healthy class, trains leaders and turns the ministry over to the class members. In short, she knows how to let go.
Henry Ford once told a leadership team, “Any customer can have a car painted any color that he wants so long as it is black.” Obviously that opinion did not last. Ford Motor Company, at some point, had to change. We now see cars of every color imaginable.